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"Emmie
Thompson
He's
28,
she's
44.
What
can
they
possibly
have
in
common?
"
The
first
time
we
met,
I
was
stunned
by
his
emotional
honesty,"
she
says.
"I
found
us
talking
about
things
that
I
never
got
to
talk
about
in
fifteen
years
of
marriage
men's
hurts,
their
emotional
fears,
pains,
and
joys.
He
wasn't
hiding
behind
a
big
facade
of
indifference.
It
was
a
revelation."
"She's
sexy,"
he
says,
"but
in
a
different
way
than
younger
women.
She's
sure
of
herself,
and
she
knows
that
there's
more
to
her
as
a
person
than
just
her
body.
We're
close
in
an
emotional
sense,
and
the
rest
just
flows
from
there."
The
key
issue,
for
this
couple,
is
equality.
They
have
discovered
that
the
other
has
the
same
wants
and
needs,
the
same
ideals,
and
they
don't
care
that
she
was
born
sixteen
years
earlier.
Age
disparate
relationships
have
been
around
for
as
long
as
men
and
women,
but
traditionally
older
men
have
sought
out
younger
women
to
share
their
lives.
In
fact,
the
cynical
saying,
"It's
just
as
easy
to
love
a
rich
man
as
a
poor
man,'probably
came
from
this
pattern,
with"
young
women
seeking
the
security
of
a
man
who
is
KX
0
MMim
arras
rasa
financially
secure.
Young
women
have
always
known
that
older
men
are
healthy,
vital
individuals,
yet
it
has
taken
longer
for
the
society
to
discover
the
same
about
women.
Part
of
the
reason
for
this
is
the
emphasis
our
society
puts
upon
women's
beauty
as
a
bargaining
tool
in
the
gameofme-you.
Corcenturies
women
have
been
deprived
of
ownership
of
property,
of
their
children,
even
of
theirown
bodies.
Patriarchal
domina-tionhas
maintained
powerin
the
hands
of
men,
and
women
have
been
limited
to
bartering
their
bodies
in
exchange
for
security
and
power.
When
repeated
child-bearing
depleted
women's
bodies
and
often
killed
them,
the
turnover
in
wives
was
terrific,
and
a
young
wife
was
a
definite
asset
It
is
no
wonder
that
the
ephemeral
beauty
of
youth
has
become
glorified;
what
is
a
wonder
is
that
women
are
now
in
a
position
to
fight
this
stereotype.
It's
long
been
known
that
women
reach
a
physical
peak
years
after
men
(who
hasn't
heard
that
men's
sexual
peak
is
at
nineteen
while
women's
sexuality
peaks
some
teen
to
twenty
years
later?).
So
it
comes
as
no
surprise
that
women
who
have
been
raised
on
the
doctrine
of
equality
are
challenging
the
myth
that
only
young
women
are
beautiful.
The
surprise
is
that
men
have
taken
so
long
to
catch
on.
Another
reason
for
the
change
is
that
women's
movements,
form
Mary
Wollstonecraft
on,
have
been
radically
redesigning
the
roles
of
men.
In
Canada
and
the
U.S,
women
make
up
nearly
half
the
work
force,
and
are
increasingly
financially
secure.
This
alone
has
been
has
the
power
to
stimulate
tremendous
changes
in
the
power
between
men
and
women.
Women
are
less
likely
to
have
only
their
youth
and
beauty
as
assets
in
the
courtship
negotiation;
often
they
come
with
solid
incomes
and
a
clear
sense
of
their
own
identity
and
their
own
needs.
According
to
the
Globe
and
Mail
(March
2,
1991),
marriages
between
older
women
and
younger
men
have
nearly
doubled
since
1969.
About
a
third
of
the
marriages
between
divorced
women
and
a
man.
In
their
study,
power
sharing
looms
large
in
therelationshipsbetweenolderwomen
and
younger
men.
According
to
reporter
Alanna
Mitchell,
"women
are
rejecting
men
who
dominate
them
in
favourofmenwhosharepower."
And
men
in
such
relationships
are
comfortable
to
take
their
share
of
power.
The
men
who
share
relationships
may
be
emotionally
more
mature
than
their
counterparts;
secure
themselves,
they
do
not
have
a
strong
urge
to
battle
for
control.
What
does
this
mean
for
the
population
at
large?
Many
women
are
giving
up
on
traditional
marriages
and
looking
for
happiness
in
unconventional
relationships.
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this
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their
powers
and
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then
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Younger
women
will
be
less
susceptible
to
the
insidious
concept
that
they
have
little
value
as
individuals
unless
they
conform
to
a
beauty
standard
that
is
met
by
only
a
few.
Older
women
will
lose
the
stigma
that
is
attached
to
aging
in
a
society
that
glorifies
youth-fulness.
With
women's
lives
enriched
in
these
ways,
men
can
only
benefit,
as
the
women
in
their
lives
reach
into
the
full
range
of
human
expression
to
become
the
best
that
they
can
be.
The
concept
may
be
neither
a
fad
nor
a
phenomenon,
but
rather
a
revolution
in
the
way
that
men
and
women
define
themselves.
Time
will
tell.
The
only
comment
that
can
be
made
with
certainly
is
that
age-disparate
relationships
are
not
going
to
go
away.
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